Remember: you cannot trust your feelings. They are constructed, socialized. You cannot trust your thoughts. Who knows what old and tired pathways they’re coursing through. You cannot trust the energy between you two. You are a light-mind being made out of infinite, cycling energy. An energetic bond with another human means nothing special. Truly. We are all energy and the more you conceptualize this, the more you will feel that energy with and from other people.
Read This the Next Time You Think You’re in Love, August 2019
Our thoughts aren’t inherently real; they’re just stories we tell ourselves. So tell your negative thoughts to hit the road. Remember: You are the narrator of your life. Tell the story that serves you best.
The Art of Turning Every Mistake Into a Win, July 2019
You are not a hungry ghost. You are infinite, cycling energy currently having a human experience. The void is a tool. The void is a trick. The void is a sign. We will overcome this capitalist, consumerism culture seeping with pollution once we understand our inner workings.
Feeding My Subconscious Mind, July 2019
While they were cruel, I also felt like many of the comments rang true. Amidst the vitriol, I couldn’t help but admit: The Angry Men of YouTube were right. Or not “right,” per se. But some of their criticisms were valid. We don’t live in a singular universe where everyone holds the same beliefs and plays by the same rules. There is no “right” or “wrong” when it comes to opinions. And because we live in an infinite multiverse where every individual experiences a slightly different reality from the next, everything is subjective.
Dating in the Multiverse, March 2019
This is not about not finding or wanting partnership. This is about dismantling a cultural ideology that tells us that we are not complete unless we are married. Marriage is a choice, not the default. Single is our default setting, and it’s time we honor, respect, and uplift that.
The ideology of marriage is deeply tied to capitalism, consumerism, and the patriarchy: Systems that teach us that we are not good enough as we are.They teach us that love comes from a partner or a purchase. A culture that teaches that love must be found externally is a broken culture.
Being Single is the Default, December 2018
Because for some us in our twenties and maybe beyond, we’re all just looking for something. Something that feels like home. Or not like home. Somewhere to explore, disappear in, ex-patriate towards; some place to fall in love with. Some place, some where, some thing, we don’t really know.
COUCHES, June 2018
One might expect to detect boastful pride in the voice of an artist who in less than half a decade is already working full-time, but Elder is instead quiet, thoughtful, and speaks passionately about learning to understand paint and dedicating himself to technique. His desire to paint started with a yearning for a more in depth understanding of ecology, the science behind the relationships between organisms and their environments—or, perhaps, more poetically and simply: the relationships between organisms and their environment.
Portrait of an Artist: Collin Elder, December 2014